Hello, my friends. Welcome back. I’m warning you ahead of time; I haven’t taken my meds today so we’re fixin to get busy in a most euphoric way. Once again, I’ve swerved off of the camping course to air another pet peeve: cell phone etiquette.
As always, I like to qualify my statements by showing that I have some knowledge and or experience on the subject I’m speaking on. While I may be fifty-two, and considered by some to be a dinosaur, let me assure you that I am now, and have been for many years, gainfully employed in the high tech electronics world. I proudly fit most of the criteria for being a card-carrying geek. I have, and drool over, a whole host of the latest electronic gadgetry; including a cell phone, which is my only phone. I am a fairly competent “texter” and I can surf the internet on my Droid with the best of them. I consider cell phones to be one of the greatest inventions since the automobile: in their proper context.
For starters, since doing away with my home phone some years ago, my cell phone is my only connection to the outside world (the internet not withstanding). That doesn’t mean that I want to be that accessible. The idea of someone knowing where I am and what I’m doing at any given time just isn’t me. It reeks of Big Brother. Just because I have a phone on my hip at all times, that doesn’t mean I like being called constantly and pulled into unnecessary conversations at all hours of the day and night. Frankly, I hate talking on the phone; land line or cellular. I freely admit to being one of those, Say what you’ve got to say and get off the line, phone minimalists. When I’m talking to someone, I like to watch their eyes and their facial expressions to insure I’m getting the straight poop. I keep my cell phone to be accessible to my children and grand children to hear about their latest ups and downs, occasionally, though grudgingly, for work and to prove one of the many bullshit artists I come across on a daily basis wrong with a quick visit to Google. Other than that, there’s a great big world out there full of real people to converse and mingle with.
I am a fairly laid-back fella, tolerant of others and their different ways, but nothing can get my dander up quicker than trying to carry on a conversation with someone who is half in our conversation and half into a text conversation; or even a verbal conversation, on their cell phone while I’m trying to broaden their horizons with my wealth of useless information.
The dark side of my font of useless information comes from the information I’m forced to ingest just for committing the heinous crime of being seated near someone on a cell phone in a restaurant. It’s like watching an old movie where Ma and Pa Kettle get their first crank up phone and have to scream into it to be heard by the party on the other end. You’re sitting there, trying to eat or have a real time conversation with whoever you’re dining with while having to listen to supposedly intelligent people speaking into their cell, at a volume far higher than the ambiance requires, telling the individual on the other end about their hemorrhoids, toe nail fungus or the sordid details of last nights’ conquests. TMI, people! I’m trying to eat in peace and converse here!
Moreover, Mr. Webster and a few others spent a great many years compiling a dictionary that has come to be the literary bible for most of us. Underpaid and overworked teachers dedicate their lives to teaching our children the English language. Yet, in the comparatively short time since texting has become the preferred source of communication, the English language has been reduced to a lingo, unintelligible to most of us over forty, that would have Mr. Webster rolling over in his grave. I shudder at the thought of the literary masterpieces that will come from the current texting generation.
I love the written word. I am a voracious reader and, according to some, a hack writer (to them I say, DILLIGAS). I spend a great deal of time writing and looking for just the right word to make my point. I put great stock in words and, admittedly, though probably wrongly, sometimes measure people by the way they communicate; both verbally and in print. If I’m going to tell someone that I love them in a text, it certainly won’t be with ILY. Love is not a word that should be taken lightly. To abbreviate it just takes all the zing out of it. If I’m going to take the time to thank someone for something they’ve done for me, THX just doesn’t express that sentiment sufficiently; IMHO.
Most work places have a break area with an insufficient number of uncomfortable tables to, in “the Man’s” warped way of thinking, insure that the masses keep their breaks to a minimum. As such, at peak break times, it is often necessary to share a table with others. More often than not, that table is probably inhabited by others carrying on a face-to-face conversation, yet more and more people find it acceptable to sit at that table while talking on their cell phone, thoroughly disrupting an ongoing conversation, and share, on occasion, details of their personal lives that no one else should ever hear or care to hear. And, more often than not, they’re talking on their phone while shoveling food into their mouths; totally oblivious to the others sitting inches from them. Whatever happened to not talking with your mouth full? How about my mom’s favorite: Don’t interrupt people while they’re talking, young man!” I know; I’m ancient and from a land and time where manners were of prime importance and considered the norm instead of the exception.
Even more disturbing; how many times have you walked into a public restroom and heard voices wafting over the top of the stalls? There’s nothing more unsettling than to hear something like, Of course I love you *grunt* baby doll! There’s no other*pffffffffttttttt* woman in the world *splash* for me! How romantic! A profession of love from a petri dish of fermenting filth. Frankly, I’m one of those who has worked diligently at training my bowels to function only at home so as to avoid the disgusting experience of having to even sit on a public toilet. In keeping with my geek persona, I even keep a tub of Lysol wipes in my backpack, right next to my collapsible umbrella, “just in case.” The thought of sitting on one of those fungus colonies while holding my cell phone in my hand, probably the same hand that will soon be used to do the paper work, and then return that phone to my mouth and ear shortly thereafter, is revolting. Just the smell of a public restroom should be sufficient to deter anyone with any sense from even pulling a cell phone out of its’ case for fear of untold, and as yet unidentified, germs jumping on it and later causing them to grow a third eye. I’m ugly enough.
Ladies, you have my deepest sympathies over your disqualification from the stand and deliver method of elimination. That, however, is an entirely different blog.
That third eye takes on even scarier connotations when you factor in the radiation you’re absorbing into your brain while you mindlessly blather into your phone. They have actually categorized said radiation now and have named the phenomenon SAR, (Specific Absorption Rate), measured specifically from the brand of phone you use. It must be something worth considering if they gave it an acronym all its’ own.
I’ve been secretly doing my own scientific research, observing those who constantly have a cell phone glued to their ear to see if I notice any ill effects from SAR. So far, my research is proving fruitful. Those who are constantly on their phones are usually observed walking around in a daze with that glassy eyed look I used to see in my days as a medic on the campus of Happy Acres (my alias for an insane asylum for those of you who are new to my warped sense of humor). A great many of them are also crotch scratchers and nose pickers. The more dedicated cell phone addicts have even developed a facial tic. None of them realize that whatever their spouse or significant other is doing at that very moment can wait til they get home! As a father, you can trust me when I tell you that lil Mortimer is certain to make another stinky on the potty. It’s nature. You’ll see it in all its’ technicolor glory soon enough. Get a life! Converse with real people. I’m going to publish my scientific findings soon so I can’t divulge anything further for fear of plagiarism. I’m sure MAD Magazine is chomping at the bit to publish my thesis and a great many unsavory hack colleagues would love to beat me to the punch. If you fit the aforementioned description of a cell phone addict, please get help before it’s too late.
A very good friend of mine, a computer geek of the highest esteem, was one of the first people, back in the day, to own a blue tooth. Imagine my surprise, having never seen one, when I walked outside to the break area one night to see him storming up and down the sidewalk screaming at, I thought, himself. Being a member of the medical team, I reached for my radio to call out the rest of the team to help subdue poor “Myron” and get him neatly packaged and properly restrained in the back of an ambulance and off to Happy Acres. I knew “Myron” and his wife were having some extreme marital difficulties and I just assumed he’d finally snapped. I do have to credit him for having the deportment to have his breakdown outside and out of hearing range of everyone else, though. Imagine my chagrin when the team showed up and found “Myron” wearing his blue tooth. Maybe my phone has an extremely high SAR and my short, infrequent use of it emitted enough radiation to cause me irreversible brain damage? Most who know me would probably just shake their heads knowingly in the affirmative.
So, in the relatively short time that cell phones have been around, we’ve managed to cause Emily Post and Noah Webster to roll over in their graves and untold millions to say WTF? That’s quite an accomplishment for one little piece of electronic gadgetry.
Cell phones are wonderful devices. However, in the wrong hands, they are a public nuisance. Don’t be a nuisance. Be considerate of the people around you. Walk off someplace private to have your conversations and allow the rest of us not interested in lil Mortimer’s bowel habits to converse in peace. After you’ve disconnected, get a life! That person sitting next to you might just have something interesting to say. In these days where everyone thinks the internet is the real world, the art of conversation has all but died. Whatever happened to visiting? Enjoying the company of people in their flesh and blood persona and not as an avatar? Shut the damn thing off for a while and smell the air. There’s a wonderful world out there, full of beauty and knowledge. Grab your piece of it before it’s too late. Remember, if your cell phone is turned on, Big Brother knows where you are…………..GPS can be used for good and evil.
I have to give credit and thanks my beautiful daughter, Shelby, for her input on this blog. She’s got her daddy’s heart wrapped around her fingers and always has. The lil darlin is the texting queen: a true master of the lingo. With the exception of the idioms and acronyms I see on Facebook, I am ignorant to most of the latest lingo…….and I intend to stay that way. I don’t understand half of my daughter’s texts. She usually throws in enough of The King’s English to allow me to follow the gist of her conversation, but the rest is all Greek to me. I texted her to get a list of the latest abominations to disperse throughout this rant so as not to preclude any of the cell phone generation from the point I’m trying to make. I’m a firm supporter of proper English and I support literacy for all: literacy meaning reading and writing in proper English! Drop the phone and read a book. I hear that up-and-coming, stupendous author, Brian Greenleaf, has written a few doozies! Check them out here. I know. That was a tasteless and tacky promotion. ROTFLMAO!
Until next week, dear friends, unplug once in a while. Snuggle up with the one you love and reaffirm your position in reality. Most importantly, be considerate of others. Walk away to have your phone conversations and keep them brief so you can get back to the conversation at the table and maybe learn something or even make a new friend. Life’s too short. Live it for all you’re worth.
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